The major reason women cite as to why they haven’t made the switch to female-centered sex is that they didn’t know it existed. Our culture does a miraculous job in convincing women that the only real form of sex is intercourse, male-centered; and, mature women should enthusiastically embrace it. You know; the vaginal orgasm nonsense. In society’s eyes, all other forms of sex are immature and inconsequential. So, despite women’s lack of gratification with intercourse, they soldier on; it’s the only way they know.
Nevertheless, the women we talk with have the intuitive feeling there must be more to sex than they’re experiencing. But, they don’t have the answer. They can’t tell their partners what they need to feel fulfilled, what is missing from their sexual relationship, because they don’t know themselves. Oh, they do experiment, with their spouses, and with lovers, always looking for that feeling of sexual satiation and fulfillment; but, they never find it, because they play the same game, just with different partners. There’s always that barrier of penetrative sex that keeps them trapped.
Is that the way you feel, or are you completely satisfied with sex as society scripts, not knowing or wanting to know the alternative?
When women make the paradigm shift to female-centered sex from male-centered sex, nine out of ten are adamant in their determination not to revert back. They want their continued physical and emotional sexual satiation and not the faux sexual satisfaction they willed themselves with intercourse. They want the extraordinary sexual adventures and phenomenal health benefits extended cunnilingus allows. Why then, don’t all women make the shift? What is it that stands in the way of their supreme sexual expression? If you haven’t made the shift, why haven’t you? Tell us in the comment section below. Next week, I’ll reveal what women have had to say.
The physical, mental, and emotional benefits of making the paradigm shift from male-centered sex, with intercourse as its center piece, to female-centered sex, with extended cunnilingus as the primary focus are monumental, not only for women, but also for men. The extraordinary improvement in the relationship is almost beyond belief. But, how does a woman make the shift? How does she convince her partner that the copulatory mandate is not for them?
Finally, a book that takes you through the process, step by step, is available. If you’re interested, here’s the link. It’s fantastic. Enjoy, write a review, and post your comments here, pro or con. Let’s get this dialogue going.
If you’re a woman who is dissatisfied with your sex life, you’re not alone. Seventy-five percent of women think male-centered sex (intercourse) leaves much to be desired, and many feel used. They tell me they’re tired of being treated as a sperm depository, and being left feeling empty and unfulfilled. They know something is wrong, but they don’t know what, so many of them go looking elsewhere for their sexual satisfaction. Society leaves them little choice.
The problem is, of course, multifaceted; but, the main reason for our sexual discontentment is our lack of knowledge of our natural sexuality. Most women have no idea that their sex drive is a powerful instinctual drive, not for reproduction as society would have them believe, but for orgasm. We’re highly sexual beings, driven unconsciously by the urge to be physically and emotional sexually satiated; yet, society makes us ashamed, and we feel guilty, if we attempt to answer that natural instinct.
Our orgasms are the essence of our sexuality; yet most women have no concept of their orgasmic potential. They have no idea of their orgasmic capabilities, or what their orgasms can bring to them and their partners and their relationships. Do you?
Are your orgasms a natural part of you? Do you feel they bring you complete physical and emotional satiation? Are you aware of their benefits? Won’t you take a minute and tell others what you feel? Knowledge is indeed power; so write a comment, and share your knowledge to help others understand.
Why is it that almost all women think intercourse is their ultimate sexual expression; yet, seventy-eight percent are dissatisfied with it? When this many women consistently object to being used sexually, it’s obvious something is wrong. They say they’re frustrated, angry, and even resentful with male-centered sex; yet they continue to accept mediocre, often boring, unfulfilling penetrative sex. Why don’t they demand change? What is it about the female mind that allows, and often encourages, women to willingly offer their bodies for male gratification, while they’re frequently languish, left high, wet, and wanting?
Oh yes, there are many answers to these questions; but, what do you think? I’d love to hear from you. Share your views in the comments below and let’s open the dialogue.
As many of you know, my primary objective is to help women better understand their natural sexuality, and how it has been manipulated by the copulatory fanatics to serve society’s male-dominated agenda. My fervent hope is that when women understand the difference between their innate sexuality (female-centered sex), and that of society’s contrived sexuality (male-centered sex), they will be able to break the bonds of their artificially assigned vaginal destiny and find the sexual freedom that is their birthright.
There comes a time, however, when the weight of constant push takes its toll and a respite is needed. Such a time has arrived. I will temporarily suspend posting to the blog for the month of December, so I can spend time with my family. But, I feel a closeness to those of you who have taken time from your busy schedules to browse our site, contribute to the forum, and read this blog; so, during this hiatus, should you, or any other woman, have any questions that bother you, or would like a certain topic addressed, please don’t hesitate to add a comment to this blog with your request, and I will respond accordingly.
For a woman to make the shift from the male sex paradigm to the female sex paradigm is an exciting time, but a time of uncertainty. The women I talk with speak often of a wave of apprehension when they contemplate leaving the comfortable for the unknown. Deep down, they are discontent with male-centered sex; some are genuinely unhappy, but they all want a change. But, change can be frightening, especially when it seems so foreign. For a woman to feel she deserves to be sexually satiated stirs emotions of guilt and selfishness. It raises the specter of narcissism and causes hesitation and self-doubt. But, isn’t this what society has bred into us for millennia? And, isn’t it time for us to shed the yoke?
The women who have made the paradigm shift to female-centered sex have found not only the sexual satiation that is their birthright, but also the freedom to be themselves, no longer defined in relation to their husbands and children. They flourish in the light of self-determination. Isn’t it time you made the change?
I adore being a woman, don’t you? Life is wonderful now that I fully understand my natural sexuality and have complete control over its expression. I am now, as I was always meant to be, truly free to seek my sexual satiation in the way I desire, and not the way others expect or command. The memories of all those years of sexual subservience, frustration, and lack of fulfillment have faded into oblivion and ecstasy is mine for the choosing. Yet, I am saddened by the overwhelming number of women who are deprived of the knowledge of their natural sexuality and the beauty of female-centered sex. It’s a game society and religion play to keep us in our place, submissive and sexually available on man’s terms.
If you are one of the few women who are satisfied and content with your sex life under the male-sex paradigm, you are blessed; but, if you are one of the many who are dissatisfied and discontent, you have the opportunity to make a significant change, just as I and hundreds of other women have done—demand your rightful autonomy and pleasure, and make the paradigm shift. You have no master—you answer only to yourself. Exert yourself and disregard society’s coercive efforts to keep you pinned to your vaginal destiny. Enter the realm of the female sex paradigm.
As I listened to Millie’s voice, I could feel the knot in my gut grow, twisting in that all too familiar serenade of anger. Not again, I thought, as the sweat beaded over my brow and my teeth clamped down hard as if I were crushing a bone. I’ve been here many times before, and I don’t like it. It pisses me off.
All Millie wanted to know was how she could experience orgasm during intercourse. What’s that cliché, if I had a nickel for every time a woman asked me that question, I’d be a rich woman? But, instead, I’m concerned that women are still asking the same question when the answer is readily available. What is it that blinds women to the truth of male-centered sex? Why do they endure the sadness of self-doubt, question their sexual adequacy, and suffer the pain of looking for fulfillment?
The truth, although distasteful to some, is enlightening to most—we simply are not designed to orgasm with intercourse. Struggle all we want, plead, coax, beg, but for most of us it will not happen. And, that is natural—intercourse, male-centered sex, is not our innate expression of our sexuality—it is not our orgasmic activator. Yes, there are those of us who can and do experience orgasm with intercourse, but if you are not one of those women, there is nothing wrong with you. Three out of four of us experience great difficulty in trying to orgasm with intercourse, but society has led us down the primrose path by telling us we should orgasm with intercourse so we keep trying to accomplish the improbable. Our orgasms and our fulfillment lay with female-centered sex, not with intercourse. When Millie made the paradigm shift, she found her nirvana. How about you?
What’s the difference between sexual satisfaction and sexual satiation? It’s a question many women ask when they make the paradigm shift to female-centered sex. To Marci, it was the difference between night and day.
Forty-six years ago Mary Jane Sherfey, a brilliant psychiatrist devoted to studying woman’s sexuality, told us that in reality, women are dissatisfied with sex, but that they will themselves to feel satisfied. She said that was what was expected of them and so they capitulated. They were unaware of their orgasmic potential and the fulfillment their orgasms would bring, so they settled for mundane sex, claiming satisfaction when it didn’t exist.
Marci had been there. If asked, she would say that she was satisfied with her sex life, with an occasional orgasm, with male-centered sex, but that she felt somehow incomplete, like something was missing from the encounters. What was missing, she found later, was bliss, the ecstasy of a flood of orgasms that female-centered sex provided—the physical and emotional satiation that yielded deep contentment and a feeling of fulfillment.
Sherfey was correct, given the opportunity to express their innate sexuality, women would see through the falsity of sexual satisfaction and demand their rightful sexual satiation. Women are, Sherfey said, truly orgasmically insatiable. Marci and thousands of other women attest to that. What about you?
