Esybron Institute

[Esybron]

We believe that masturbation is a beautiful, natural, and normal sexual aspect of our developing sexuality. If so, should we not teach our daughters about it? Most of us, according to our ongoing survey, practice it, even after marriage. If it is acceptable to us as adults, is it not acceptable to our daughters? What do you think?

[roxanne]

Last night I discovered my 8 year old daughter masturbating. She didn't know I could see her and I just watched her both fascinated and shocked, if that makes sense. When she climaxed and went to the bathroom, I decided to talk with her and I remembered reading Esybron's post here. Screwing up all my courage, we talked and what a talk it was. I've been married for some time now and I still love myself frequently as my orgasms are few and far between. We talked about this and how important it is to me to have my orgasms, even though I don't normally through intercourse. It was such an enlightening time. I felt overwhelmed and connected in a way never before experienced. We were so close and sharing. She knew so much more than I ever dreamed she did. We discussed our genitals, each part and why they are important to our sexuality and how she could decide for herself the beauty of sex. It was so uplifting that I needed to share it with other mothers out there who may have never thought of such a provocative move. Yes, Esybron, I know now that mothers should connect with their daughters and teach them all they know about sex, especially masturbation. If I hadn't seen the previous post, it would never have entered my mind. Thanks. I'm just elated. I've seen the woman developing in my daughter and she's shared it with me.

[brontemae776]

I don't think a mother has to be to detailed because lets face it no girl wants to hear all the details from a mother. I'm 16 and while the sex talks with Mum has never bothered me, I don't need to know what she does or what makes her feel good. I do believe however that a mother should explain to a daughter that masturbation is completely NORMAL. Up until recently I had never tried it because I felt ashamed and dirty. It was probably in the last 2 years when I found out it was actually normal for girls. I think getting to that age and thinking it was wrong to do it really put me off. I think parents should tell their daughters how normal and common it is and they should NEVER feel ashamed. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 16 months now and for the past 6 he has been trying to make me climax. It hurt both of us when I couldn't. He encouraged me to 'explore' my own body. Now that I know what I like and what CAN make me climax, it's so much better for the both of us. If I felt comfortable doing it 6 months ago like I do now, we may have saved a lot of trouble as he always blamed himself. When really I just didn't know what to do. If a parent can save her daughter from going through a stage of thinking it is wrong, or thinking there is something wrong with her because she can't climax from her boyfriend, they should ABSOLUTLY explain to them that its normal and very ok to explore their own bodies!!!

[IndianaGiordani]

I completely agree, My daughter has just turned 4 and she's been masturbating since she was 2..at least from my observations. I took the opportunity to explain to her the 3 major parts of her anatomy, Her Clitoris, her Labia and her vagina (we use opening as to not let little boys tell her something phallocentric). So at an early age not only is she aware of her sexual organs,we also discuss that these are parts that she keeps to herself for the time being, and that she can always pleasure herself, when she pleases. I am also teaching my son about female sexuality and how a woman should be treated and pleased...he's almost 3